What Is Mental Imagery And How Does It Work? Mental imagery, also called visualization or mental rehearsal, is an experience that resembles a perceptual experience, but which occurs in the absence of the appropriate stimuli for the relevant perception.
Mental images have the power to change your life. The mental images that you often visualize affect your life, whether you are aware of this or not.
If you visualize negative situations, difficulties and problem, and continue doing so, your moods will gradually become negative, you will alienate people, you will close your eyes to opportunities, and your self-esteem will go down. How can you achieve success if you are so negative?
On the other hand, successful people attract success, because they constantly imagine and expect success
What Can Mental Imagery Do To Enhance Your Life? Mental images are like a movie or still pictures that you see in your mind. If you watch them again and again your subconscious mind will ultimately accept them as you reality.
Through Mental Imagery you can affect your thinking, behaviour and world. If you visualize what you really and truly desire and how you will achieve these goals; if you replace self limiting thoughts by inspiring and motivating thoughts; negative habits by positive habits; prepare yourself mentally for challenging and difficult situations and picture yourself as the happy, healthy and successful person you want to be, you will improve your skills and become more happy and successful in your life!
How To Use Mental Imagery
Practice Daily.
Use short visualizations during your daily activities and longer visualizations while relaxing and prior to meeting specific challenges.
Use visualization boards as a computer wallpaper, sleeping room decoration or at places where they will regularly remind you of what is important to you.
Use Different Techniques of Mental Imagery for Different Purposes
Mental Imagery is an excellent way to
Manifest your Dreams and Desires
Reduce Stress
Create a Mental Safe Place
Define Priorities and Strategies
Get Rid of Stumble Blocks
Eliminate Negative Behaviour
Perfectionalize your Skills
Improve Problem Solving and Decision Making
Clear your Mind from Emotional Clutter
Find Balance
Let Go and Break Free
Some Of The Things You Can Do With Mental Imagery
1. Manifest your Dreams and Desires
Dreams do come true, but first you have to dream them, Right?
If you aim at nothing you'll hit it every time.
Goals are dreams with deadlines: If you dont set priorities, if your short term goals dont serve a long term vision, if you dont select strategies, and dont take action: how will you reach your goals?
Prepare Success! Achieving your goals, being successful and being who you want to be and living the life you want, is best visualized by mentally rehearsing the positive outcomes of future actions and events and by picturing the destined future stage.
Envision yourself achieving your goals vividly to remind yourself of your objective and what you need to do to reach it. Many athletes, actors, and singers "see" and "feel" themselves performing a routine, program, or play perfectly before they actually do it.
2. Reduce Stress Reduce stress by visualizing yourself in peaceful natural scenes, by descending an imaginary staircase towards your sacred safe place, by becoming a leaf that travels the waters of a lovely creek, by pulling the plug and draining all your stress away or by imagining how you let loose on an imaginary punching bag
3. Get Rid Of Stumble Blocks
Confront and eliminate irrational believes, fears and internal conflicts and turn your stumble blocks into stepping stones
Take responsibility for your own emotions and actions:
Recognize that neither another person, nor an adverse circumstance, can ever disturb you. Only you can.
Replace must by strongly prefer
4. Eliminate Negative Behaviour
Use Covert Sensitization: Imagine engaging in some behaviour you wish to change, say, an addiction. Have this quickly followed by imagining a highly unpleasant event. Thus, the addictive behaviour becomes paired with a highly aversive event and therefore is less likely to occur in the future. Next: imagine how your life will be without the negative behaviour. 5. Perfectionalize your Skills Systematically visualize the desired correct coping behaviour and its benefits for you. This technique has seen much use in sports. Seeing yourself perform skills at a high level, the way you want to: confident, accurate, focused, is a good way to build confidence and a feeling of readiness prior to a challenging task (public presentation, important meeting, ) or competition.
6. Improve Problem Solving and Decision Making
Choose an image to focus on to help you through a troublesome period. Visualize yourself as a superwoman who can easily scale the highest skyscrapers or a marathon runner who outruns all of his competitors. Put your problems inside a carton and imagine it getting smaller and smaller until it can easily fit into your pocket. You'll discover that your problem is easier to carry inside your pocket than the heavy weight of it sitting on your shoulders. Or, you can visualize your problems magically disappearing before your eyes. There are no limitations in your visualizing. It can be magical.
When you are struggling with making a decision between two different options, try visualizing yourself involved in the two scenarios and imagine the results of your decision. This visualization exercise should help you in making the right decision.
7. Clear your Mind from Emotional Clutter
Too many thoughts and mental pictures can convolute the mind
Choose images that erase, filter, or organize your thoughts. Much like de-cluttering a closet, you can use visualization to reduce mental clutter.
There are three causes of mental clutter: Avoidance, Indecision, and Procrastination. Dont avoid them. Confront them Now!
8. Find Balance Use visualizations to help you ground and find balance. Because our energies are always in flux it is important to "check in" with our bodies routinely to adjust and centre ourselves.
If you find yourself stubbing your toes or bumping into things, you are not in balance.
If you are experiencing mental confusion or are all over the place emotionally, a centring visualization can help return you to calm and better focus.
9. Let Go and Break Free Are you having difficulty walking away from a toxic relationship? Or do you tend to dwell on the past instead of moving forward in your life? Choose images in your visualization sessions which will allow you to break free from problematic people and move past personal regrets. We cannot change the past, but we can create our futures. Begin a new way of living by visualizing it first!
10. Familiarize Mental imagery can be used effectively to familiarize yourself with the surroundings before an event, such as an interview, an important meeting, a sales conversation or negotiation, a public presentation, a competition site, a racetrack, a stage or a difficult play or routine prior to a competition ...
11. Do a Run-Through Mental Imagery can be used as a cognitive technique to plan strategies, rehearse procedures or game plans, affirm what you want to occur, or as a coping skill strategy to stay calm and composed under pressure. Athletes and performers often do a complete mental run through of the key elements of their routines. This helps them focus, eliminate some pre-performance jitters and be more comfortable. It also serves as a warm-up or mini rehearsal.
12. Build Confidence and Readiness Seeing yourself perform skills at a high level, the way you want to: confident, accurate, focused, is a good way to build confidence and a feeling of readiness prior to a challenging task (public presentation, important meeting, ) or competition.
13. Stimulate Healing and Recovery Repetitive use of positive visualization allows access to the mind-body connection. This lets the mind and body work together to foster the healing process of the body on a physical level.
Visualization puts your intention of what you want to work. The more specific the intention, the more specific the results. Remember whatever you believe is what your body will do
14. Help You To Emulate Your Role Models
An important key foundation in Neuro-linguistic Programming is modelling. To model, you emulate those who have already achieved success. You observe, analyze and then replicate the factors that contributed to the outstanding performance.
While there is no 100% guarantee that you can reap the same results, modelling helps you shorten your learning curve. You learn to avoid common mistakes and apply the essential steps and strategies that have helped your role model succeed. The idea is that it is much easier to follow a previously proven path to success.
15. Give You Access To Your Totem Power
Animal totems contain a natural power that can allow you to see and love and know more of the earth, life and especially yourself.
Animal spirit guide totems hold power and knowledge that we can use to be one with nature - all that is and will be and use the power of nature to achieve our goals. Many cultures of the past understood and used the power of animal totems.
Totems can be particularly useful in today's society where it is easy to forget the essence and true spirit of life and love in the midst of high technology.
Use your personal animal totem to awaken the natural balance with nature that you already possess. You can be healthier and happier physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually in understanding and honouring your animal totems.
16. Borrow The Mind Of A Genius Or The Powers Of Your Hero The truth is that you can be anything that you want to bebut you do have to work at it.
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An Introduction to Family Therapy - composed by Dean Amory
This is the presentation of the new, extended and improved version of An Introduction to Family Therapy, your reference guide containing detailed information about all important facets of family therapy: schools and methods, strategies used, structure and content of family therapy sessions, stages, basic techniques, influential people, history of family therapy,
The manual provides extended background information about history and development of marital and family therapy and describes the lives and careers of the principal pioneers and leaders in the field.
Ample attention is given to the most important contemporary models and schools of schools:
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Brief Strategic Family Therapy
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Brief Strategic Family Therapy for Adolescent Drug Abuse
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Solution Focused Brief Therapy
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Brief Psycho Therapy
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Psycho-analytiuc Family Therapy
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Strategic Family Therapy
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Bowens Strategic Family Therapy
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Salvador Minuchins Structural Family Therapy
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Virginia Satirs Humanistic Family Therapy
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Behavioural & Conjoint Family Therapy
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Milan Systemic Family Therapy or Long Brief Therapy
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Response Based Family Therapy
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Contextual Family Therapy
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Narrative Family Therapy
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Problem Centered Systems Family Therapy
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Experiential Family Therapy
Following basic Techniques used in Family Therapy are described in detail:
ACCOMMODATION
AFFECTIVE CONFRONTATION
ASKING PERMISSION
BEGINNERS MIND
BOUNDARY FORMATION
ADDING COGNITIVE CONSTRUCTIONS
1. ADVICE AND INFORMATION
2. PRAGMATIC FICTIONS
3. PARADOX
COMMUNICATION TECHNIQUES
1. MATCHING THE CLIENTS LANGUAGE
2. MATCHING SENSORY MODALITIES
3. CHANNELING THE CLIENTS LANGUAGE
4. USE OF VERB FORMS
5. GIVE CLOSE EXAMINATION TO THEIR LANGUAGE AND YOURS.
COMMUNICATION SKILL-BUILDING TECHNIQUES
1. REFLECTING
2. REPEATING
3. FAIR FIGHTING TECHNIQUES
4. TAKING TURNS EXPRESSING FEELINGS
5. NONJUDGMENTAL BRAINSTORMING
6. EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION
CONCLUSION
CONFIRMATION OF A FAMILY MEMBER:
DEFRAMING
DETRIANGULATION
DIAGNOSING
DIFFERENTIATION OF SELF
DISEQUILIBRIUM TECHNIQUES
1. REFRAMING:
3. BOUNDARY MAKING
4. PUNCTUATION:
4. UNBALANCING:
LESSONS IN EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION
EMOTIONAL CUT-OFF
THE EMPTY CHAIR
ENACTMENT
FAMILY CHOREOGRAPHY
FAMILY CONTRACT
FAMILY COUNCIL MEETINGS
FAMILY FLOOR PLAN
FAMILY LIFE CYCLE
FAMILY PHOTOS
FAMILY SCULPTING
FAMILY SYSTEM STRATEGIES
THE GENOGRAM
GOAL SETTING
ICEBREAKER COMPLIMENT OR POSITIVE STATEMENT
IDENTIFICATION
INFORMATION-GATHERING TECHNIQUES
1. THE GENOGRAM
2. FAMILY PHOTOS
3. FAMILY FLOORPLAN
INTENSITY
INTERVENTION TECHNIQUES
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RELATIONSHIP EXPERIMENTS.
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COACHING.
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I-POSITIONS.
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DISPLACEMENT STORIES.
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TAKING SIDE & MEDIATING.
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THE EMPTY CHAIR
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FAMILY COUNCIL MEETINGS
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STRATEGIC ALLIANCES
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PRESCRIBING INDECISION
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PUTTING THE CLIENT IN CONTROL OF THE SYMPTOM
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SPECIAL DAYS, MINI-VACATIONS, SPECIAL OUTINGS
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PROBLEM SOLVING
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FAMILY CONTRACTS
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REFRAMING
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PUNCTUATION
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UNBALANCING
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RESTRUCTURING
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ENACTMENT
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BOUNDARY FORMATION
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WORKING WITH SPONTANEOUS INTERACTION
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INTENSITY
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SHAPING COMPETENCE
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ADDING COGNITIVE CONSTRUCTIONS
INVOLUNTARY CLIENT SHEMA
JOINING
1. TRACKING:
2. MIMESIS:
3. CONFIRMATION OF A FAMILY MEMBER:
4. ACCOMODATION:
5. MAINTENANCE
NORMALIZATION
OBSERVATION
POSITIVE CONNOTATION
PARADOXICAL INJUNCTIONS
PRAGMATIC FICTIONS
PRESCRIBING INDECISION
PROBLEM TRACKING
PROBLEM SOLVING TECHNIQUES
PROBLEM DISSOLUTION
PUNCTUATION
PUTTING CLIENT IN CONTROL OF THE SYMPTOM
QUESTIONS
1. THE MIRACLE QUESTION:
2. FAST-FORWARDING QUESTIONS
3. THE EXCEPTION QUESTION:
4. STRATEGIC BASIC QUESTIONS:
5. PROVOCATIVE QUESTIONS:
6. SCALING QUESTIONS AND PERCENTAGE QUESTIONS
7. EXCEPTION SEEKING QUESTIONS
8. COPING QUESTIONS
9. OPEN QUESTIONS
10. PROCESS QUESTIONS.
11. LINEAR QUESTIONS
12. CIRCULAR QUESTIONS
15. PROBLEM TRACKING QUESTIONS
16. CONVERSATIONAL QUESTIONS
17. FRAMING QUESTIONS
18. DEFRAMING QUESTIONS
REFRAMING
REFRAMING PROBLEM DEFINITIONS
RESTRUCTURING
SHAPING COMPETENCE
USE OF SILENCE
SPECIAL DAYS, MINI-VACATIONS, SPECIAL OUTINGS
WORKING WITH SPONTANEOUS INTERACTION
STRATEGIC ALLIANCES
TRACKING
UNBALANCING
INTRODUCING UNCERTAINTY
UTILIZATION STRATEGY
The structure, strategies and different stages of the Family Therapy Process are discussed.
The Systemic Family Therapy Manual that is part of this introduction, provides a detailed survey of therapy outlines, goals and checklists for initial , middle and end sessions of a systemic Family Therapy.
Appendixes include samples of appointment letter, video consent, referrer letter, post assessment letter, closing letter, session notes record form and diagnostic interview outline.
MANIPULATION: HOW TO GET WHAT YOU WANT - MAKE PEOPLE DO WHAT YOU WANT
Unlike people who are trying to influence, persuade or convince others, manipulators work with unfair means to get what they want. They do not respect the personal rights of their victims. They violate the victim's integrity, work with hidden agendas and deliberately use dishonest tricks like faulty reasoning, coercion, blackmail and lying in an attempt to control the victim's actions. Manipulation is about suiting the manipulator's advantage or purpose only, often at the expense of the victim.
Yet, it is often difficult to know when you are being manipulated: manipulators do all they can to convince you that you are the one who is to benefit most from their actions and that they are acting in good faith.
It's often really difficult to recognize manipulation when it happens. After all, if we are aware that it is happening, would we allow ourselves to be manipulated?
That is where this book comes in handy: it explains the tricks manipulators use and teaches you how to best defend and protect yourself.
Influence includes being able to persuade, motivate and negotiate in order to get what you want.
Imagine just for a moment how important it is to each of us to improve our ability to influence others: to make friends and inspire them,to win other people for our standpoint or to make business contacts and reach positive agreements with them.
What if you were even only slightly more successful in this art?Just imagine the possible benefits for your personal life, your love life, your career, your social life, your personal happiness, your financial position!
You know how important it is to educate yourself, to develop a vision, to plan, and to work towards your goals with flexibility and perseverance.Yet you also know that the race is not always to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, nor does food always come to the wise or wealth to the brilliant or favor to the learned.
One of the main reasons why excellent people do not advance in their careers or fail in life, is because they don't realize the enormous importance of networking and communication.
Knowledge and personal capacities are not enough to be successful.You need influencing skills to make it in this life!
Since this great book about the art of influencing and persuading others, is composed of articles found in the public domain, which are freely accessible for anybody on the internet, it's only fair that you should also be able to download this book totally free of costs.
So, why not download the book and start today to take your influencing and persuading skills to the next level?
The knowledge contained in this book will allow you to be happier in your life and more successfully
* make friends and inspire them
* win other people for your standpoint
* make business contacts
* negotiate positive agreements
* advance in your career
* enhance your personal life, your love life, your social life
* enhance your personal happiness
* enhance your financial position
By getting better at influencing and persuading people, you will in short, be able to create for yourself and your loved ones the kind of life you have been dreaming of
COMMUNICATIEWETTEN: DE WETTEN VAN GOEDE COMMUNICATIE
DE WETTEN VAN GOEDE COMMUNICATIE Door Eddy Adriaens
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Communiceren is hoe je in contact komt met anderen. De manier waarop je dat doet is meteen van enorm belang voor het ontwikkelen van bevredigende en succesvolle relaties.
In dit werk focust Eddy Adriaens op een aantal zeer belangrijke communicatietechnieken: contacten leggen en onderhouden, vrienden maken en houden, een gesprek starten en in gang houden, jezelf en anderen motiveren, spreken in het openbaar ... het draait allemaal rond communicatie. Goede communicatie op haar beurt vereist sterke interpersoonlijke vaardigheden. Hoe word je meer assertief? Hoe geef en ontvang je feedback? Hoe vraag je iets en hoe reageer je op een verzoek? Hoe breng je slecht nieuws? Hoe ga je om met verandering?
Deze bundel omvat, naast de wetten voor goede communicatie en conversatie, ook de boekdelen "Leven is Communiceren" en "Geweldloze Communicatie"
In "Leven is communiceren" vind je gedetailleerde informatie en nuttige tips om je communicatie met anderen te verbeteren en zowel privé als beroepsmatig beter te scoren. "Leven is communiceren" is zowel als downloadfile als in boekvorm ook afzonderlijk verkrijgbaar bij http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/Jaimelavie
Communiceren is hoe je in contact komt met anderen. De manier waarop je dat doet is meteen van enorm belang voor het ontwikkelen van bevredigende en succesvolle relaties. In dit werk focust Eddy Adriaens op een aantal zeer belangrijke communicatietechnieken: contacten leggen en onderhouden, vrienden maken en houden, een gesprek starten en in gang houden, jezelf en anderen motiveren, spreken in het openbaar ... het draait allemaal rond communicatie. Goede communicatie op haar beurt vereist sterke interpersoonlijke vaardigheden. Hoe word je meer assertief? Hoe geef en ontvang je feedback? Hoe vraag je iets en hoe reageer je op een verzoek? Hoe breng je slecht nieuws? Hoe ga je om met verandering? In "Leven is communiceren" vind je gedetailleerde informatie en nuttige tips om je communicatie met anderen te verbeteren en zowel privé als beroepsmatig beter te scoren. "Leven is communiceren" is zowel als downloadfile als in boekvorm verkrijgbaar bij http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/Jaimelavie
Deze praktische cursus geheugentraining wil vooral een praktische hulp zijn in het dagelijkse leven. Zij richt zich dan ook vooral op het onthouden van: 1. Leerstof 2. nieuwe dingen opslaan om te onthouden voor later 3. taken 4. voorvallen uit het verleden 5. namen
Ik heb 14 jaar in diverse kmo's gewerkt als adjunct en hoofd van de verkoopadministratie. Later werkte ik ongeveer even lang als commercieel afgevaardigde en adjunct kantoordirecteur in de... banksector. Tijdens die periode heb ik mij vaak verwonderd over de manier waarop budgetten voor marketing en publiciteit toegekend en besteed worden. Het huidig werkboekje wil voor dit domein een beknopte en praktische leidraad bieden aan iedereen die als zelfstandige of in een kmo-omgeving mee verantwoordelijkheid draagt voor de commerciële uitbouw van het bedrijf
Whether you are considering life coaching as a career or for self coaching, Dean Amory's Complete Life Coaching and Personal Coaching Course is your best guide for coaching your coachees and yourself towards maximizing your life potential and achieving a happier and more fulfilled life. This is the last in a series of three books. Part 1, Personal Coaching is about what Personal Coaching is and offers a survey of the most popular models for Coaching. Part 2, Techniques for Personal Coaching and Self Coaching introduces you to the most powerful coaching techniques in use. Part 3, Essential Knowledge for Personal Coaches, is a practical standard reference work highlighting the indispensable knowledge and skills anybody who is considering life coaching as a career or as a serious self coaching process
COACHING - SELF COACHING - PERSONAL COACHING - LIFE COACHING ============================================================ Whether you are considering life coaching as a career or for self coaching, Dean Amory's Complete Life Coaching and Personal Coaching Course is your best guide for coaching your coachees and yourself towards maximizing your life potential and achieving a happier and more fulfilled life.
The Complete Guide of Coaching is composed of three books:
Part 1, Personal Coaching is about what Personal Coaching is and offers a survey of the most popular models for Coaching.
Part 2, Techniques for Personal Coaching and Self Coaching introduces you to the most powerful coaching techniques in use.
Part 3, Essential Knowledge for Personal Coaches, is a practical standard reference work highlighting the indispensable knowledge and skills anybody who is considering life coaching as a career or as a serious self coaching process.
This workbook will teach you ten simple techniques that will allow you to create an atmosphere of appreciation and happy belonging, which will bring your date in a trance like state, in which all becomes possible.
The present workbook lists ten indispensable and infallible stepstones for successfully applying the art of influencing people. In fact, by using only these ten ingredients, your success rate in such fields as selling, convincing and seducing will soar dramatically.
Dr Irene Matiatos says : "Some of the nicest people I know are codependent. They always smile, never refuse to do a favor. They are happy and bubbly all the time. They understand others and have the ability to make people feel good. People like them!" ... and then she and a series of other specialists in the field explain you why this attitude is in fact very destructive to relationships, what its origins are and how you can overcome it. If you value your relationship and you have the feeling that the giving - taking part is not always in balance, than this is the one work that you should read !
THE ART OF SUCCESSFUL FLIRTING AND DATING is a public domain compilation containing the elementary techniques for flirting, dating and making conversation. It is the essential guide to flirting and dating for boys and girls, revealing the secret to successful seduction and lasting passion. Learn now how to get the boy or girl you want ... and keep them.
In deze Powercursus leer je de technieken aan die gebruikt worden om ons wereldbeeld, onze opvattingen, visies en voorkeuren te wijzigen. Je verwerft inzicht in geraffineerde manieren om mensen te beïnvloeden, te verleiden, te misleiden, te overhalen en te hypnotiseren.
Familiegeschiedenis van de familie Adriaens - De Pauw uit Terjoden, aangevuld met stambomen van de 16e eeuw tot nu, van de families Adriaens, De Pauw en De Schryver afkomstig uit Denderhoutem, Oost Vlaanderen, België en met interessante teksten over de geschiedenis van onze streek.
Dit verhaal situeert zich in Aalst en begint op de eerste schooldag in 1970. Die dag wordt Eddy verliefd op een nieuwe klasgenote, Marleen. Een paar maanden later al krijgt hij de bons. Wanneer blijkt dat de beide jonge mensen elkaar niet echt kunnen loslaten, begint een moeilijke dans van aanhalen en afstand nemen. Wij volgen Eddy gedurende deze periode en de twee volgende jaren en maken mee hoe hij worstelt om voor zichzelf antwoorden te vinden op de vragen die wij ons in die levensfaze allemaal stellen: over verliefd worden, liefde, omgaan met mensen, respect, de redenen waarom we zijn zoals wij zijn, enz ...
So you walked up to her and said "Hi!" ... and now : what ? This is a book about starting up conversations and keeping them going. Contrary to what you may have been thinking, finding the perfect opening line need not be a problem at all: You can say almost anything you want as long as you do so in a friendly way. If a girl is interested in you, she won't care much about your first line. It's what comes next, that matters!
Complete course on writing Fairy Tales, compilated from information freely available on the world wide web, completed with "some salt and pepper from my own storehouse".
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Korte inhoud
De geschiedenis en stambomen van de familie Adriaens - Van Herreweghe x De Pauw - De Schryver (De Schrijver) met wortels in Denderhoutem, Galmaarden, Denderhoutem en Okegem / Liedekerke. Aangevuld met een verzameling van interessante artikels met historische achtergrondinformatie.
Marleen (Dagboek van mijn apenjaren in de handelsschool in Aalst)
Het verhaal:
Die eerste schooldag ontmoet Eddy een nieuwe klasgenote: Marleen. Al vlug worden de twee onafscheidelijk.
Wanneer Marleen een paar maanden later onverwacht een einde maakt aan de relatie, begint het verhaal pas echt.
De beide jongelui ontdekken dat ze samen niet verder kunnen zoals ze bezig zijn, maar mekaar al evenmin kunnen loslaten. Krampachtig proberen ze hun evenwicht te vinden in een ogenschijnlijk absurde situatie. Achter de schermen bepalen hun dromen, wat ze verwachten van het leven, hoe ze zich gedragen. Maar evenzeer hun idealen : hoe ze zichzelf zien, hoe en wat ze willen zijn voor zichzelf en voor de anderen ...
Gedurende twee jaar volgen wij Eddy op zijn tocht naar de volwassenheid. Tijdens deze periode worstelt hij met de vragen waarmee ook elk van ons zich geconfronteerd zagen: over liefhebben, loslaten, kiezen, gelukkig worden ... Het wordt een tocht vol verrassingen, bezaaid met momenten van intens geluk maar ook met ogenblikken van diep verdriet.
"Marleen" is een boek dat wij in één keer willen uitlezen en dat ons uiteindelijk achterlaat met een glimlach en het besef dat elk van ons ergens wel een beetje Eddy of Marleen is.
De auteur:
Eddy werd geboren in 1953 in Aalst. Hij groeide er samen met zes broers en zussen op in de wijk Terjoden (Erembodegem). Na zijn middelbare studies werkte hij eerst in lokale KMO's als correspondent en adjunct-(verkoops)directeur. Daarna werkte hij als helpdesk operator en relatiebeheerder bij Bacob, thans Dexia. Hij is gehuwd en vader van één dochter.
Dit verhaal situeert zich in Aalst en begint op de eerste schooldag in 1970. Die dag wordt Eddy verliefd op een nieuwe klasgenote, Marleen. Een paar maanden later al krijgt hij de bons. Wanneer blijkt dat de beide jonge mensen elkaar niet echt kunnen loslaten, begint een moeilijke dans van aanhalen en afstand nemen. Wij volgen Eddy gedurende deze periode en de twee volgende jaren en maken mee hoe hij worstelt om voor zichzelf antwoorden te vinden op de vragen die wij ons in die levensfaze allemaal stellen: over verliefd worden, liefde, omgaan met mensen, respect, de redenen waarom we zijn zoals wij zijn, enz ...
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