Magdalena wrote:

Can't God just remove the mechanism that creates unforgiveness and roots of bitterness? What if you have wrestled with these already, done the work, seen the results, and you just don't want to have to hassle over it anymore, but your flesh keeps making it happen. Some of us seem to be more sensitive to getting hurt or offended than others, not by choice but just its in our natures. What if you don't want to be like that. It seems really silly to keep having to wrestle with the same thing when you've already learned the "lesson" and decided you don't want or need it going on anymore, but it keeps happening.
Doesn't God ever take garbage like that away for good? It seems kind of mean to keep testing you over and over with that when you've already passed the test and made up your mind on the issue. Sometimes God seems very hard to understand in this regard. He wants us to trust Him; doesn't He trust us?

My answer:

Yes...God can remove the mechanism that creates unforgiveness.He orders us to forgive and he is a good God.
He should never order us to something that we cannot do.

But this is the solution. We should use all the weapons that he has given to us.
Your flesh will not be capable to forgive.
- Some of us have in their character revengfulness. This can has come there by inheritance. In the course of many generations this bad character-element may have come in as a following of the ongoing spoiling of mankind by the devil.
- Other people are revengeful, because they import this bad habit in their mind themselves.
But also in these two cases God can help you to abstain from these bad things.

When people have difficulties with forgiving, this may be caused:
- by their own character, as explained above
- by a damage done, which is so big, that the wound is very deep.
But also in these cases the command, the lovecommand is this: go on with your holy struggle, not spasmodically , but trusting.

God takes away that garbage. He makes every thing new. He is trusting us. He gave us his Son to take all sins away from all people, that would trust him, in the past, now, in the future , everywhere.

But where are these weapons. Let us first go to Luke 6 v 37: in my dutch bible it reads as follows:
"Release and you will be released."
In English it reads :
"Forgive and you will be forgiven".
I feel much comfort in the dutch version. I read it like this. When you pray God for a thing and - for example- ask:
"O Lord...can you help me to get this to the background of my memory...that dreadful moment that that car hit my child and killed it. I want to get free of this terrible sight...not that it may go away...but that it will be softened. "

And then there is a secret... patience...patience. And you will see, that the Lord comes with his heavenly balm and softens the wound.
And from there the way to forgiveness to the drunk driver is not an easy way, but it is to go. But before you already have the relaxation, that this bad happening itself does not longer terrorize you and make you ill.

But of course there are other means. A very high percentage of the readers of this forum have been converted. Others have even been reborn. Still many readers are filled by the Holy Spirit. And this is the ultimate way God is using to set us free from unforgivance.

I do not know your spiritual situation. But of course in my 86 years I have undergone many bad happenings and there are people, who have wounded me....just as I have wounded other people, perhaps without being aware of it. But anyway....the Holy Spirit has grandly helped me to do all revenge feelings away, also to the benefit of my own health.

It is not possible to say all things at the same time, but I hope, that I have made an opening for a good discussion.

Greetings
Ger