Dear Wayne,

How good that you have come to us. We are all friends here and we all are praying for you.

And now you have heard, that some of us have pain too.
Now this is my advice to you. Pray for the friends, having told about their own pain. Praying for other people reliefs your own sorrows.
Paul was a man, accustomed to pain. He had, ( 2 Corinthians 12 v 7):
".....a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of satan to torment me...|"

And although he had so much sorrow himself he could say to the Corinthians, ( 2 Cor.13 v 9), to the Philippians, ( 1 v 4), to the Colossians, ( 1 v 3), to the Thessalonians, ( 2 Th 1 v 11), THAT HE PRAYED FOR THEM.

Perhaps here is also a task for you, although youi have so much to bear.

Paul for his heavy mental cross prayed to Lord Jesus.

In 2 Corinth 12 v 8 we read:
" Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me.
" MY GRACE IS SUFFICIENT FOR YOU, FOR MY POWER IS MADE PERFECT IN WEAKNESS",
Lord Jesus answered.

We pray for you. Speak to Lord Jesus about it and be full of courage, when you get a similar answer as Paul. But God has his own way with Wayne and with Paul.

Greetings
Ger, (from another forum up here, 'Ask Ger', where you also find an ongoing biblestudy).